‘Communication is key, and it’s enormously helpful to understand what roles you’ll be fulfilling beforehand. ‘See this as a journey you can go on together, and you might be surprised, your partner(s) may find something new that they enjoy too.’ ‘Start small and build to something bigger, and remember that this exploration isn’t just about you, it’s about the people you’re sexually engaged with too,’ says Calum. It’s important to remember that you can change your mind at any time. ‘I recommend suggesting some experimentation with your partner(s) to start with.’ ‘If you think you might be a switch, just remember that you don’t have to commit to anything right away. Everyone is different and experimentation is key.’ Communication is keyĬalum says: ‘I’m a strong believer that communication is the backbone of good sex, but it’s also understandable that for some this can be a little daunting. ‘A switch may fulfil one of these roles the majority of the time while only rarely engaging in the other. ‘The desire to be dominant/submissive doesn’t have to be split 50/50 either. Figuring out what you want sexually can be harder than it sounds, so why not be open to trying new things.Ĭalum tells .uk: ‘For many people, there’s an overwhelming urge to fulfil one particular sexual role, but if you find yourself fantasising about both, then chances are you could be a switch.

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